For the submissive man in search of a Dominant woman or Domina, this is an unfortunate imbalance, indeed, although, from a societal perspective, it is hardly surprising.
If you browse through the "alternative" adult personals, you will find far more male submissive personals than Female Dominant ones. As a matter of fact, it has been said that for every dominant woman, there are four submissive men.
You can be loving and soft, and yes, even that gentle, doe-eyed woman that he was initially drawn to, but being a dominant woman arouses a man in ways that very few realize. Men enjoy this as they find it far more intense than normal, marital sex. It keeps the relationship hot and livened, offering up new ways to get it on and feel satiated at the same time. If anything, when you become the dominant woman you’ll feel more alive than you've ever felt, simply because you’ll finally come to realize the prowess that lives within you, and the innate ability to control every little moment of passion, if that is what you want.