Loveisrespect (originally loveisrespect, National Dating Abuse Helpline) was launched in February 2007 as a project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline with a supporting grant from Liz Claiborne, Inc. It was the first 24-hour resource for teens who were experiencing dating violence and abuse and is the only teen helpline serving all of the United States and its territories.
In 2011, loveisrespect grew even stronger as The Hotline entered into a strategic partnership with Break the Cycle, another national leader in preventing dating abuse. That same year with support from Mary Kay Inc., loveisrespect launched 24-hour text services as an addition to our phone and live chat services. Vice President Joe Biden, who has spent decades working to end violence against women, premiered the text service and sent the very first text message to a loveisrespect advocate.
I agree with your essay in that love and respect are both important. Not the kind of love that is selfish and controlling –imo that isn’t love, at best it is an immature love. True love by its nature must be based within respect.
That said I was raised by a single dad. He taught us kids to respect others (their needs, space, things). That was very important to him. I, with differing personality, had different needs. I believe respect is essential and followed his rules but for me, if you wanted to communicate to me (to reach my heart) you had to give affection. I needed hugs and needed held. I needed the person-to-person physical contact. So, when teaching me about something new, touching my shoulder or hand while explaining and giving a hug after made a Huge difference in my comprehension.
I think I would have starved to death emotionally if my dad hadn’t caught on to this need of mine.
-each of us is different.
I think for the most part women communicate in a way that makes love feel more important and men communicate in a way that makes respect seem most important but truly they walk hand in hand... or there is no value in either if one is absent.