This all matters for one simple, but powerful reason: Thoughts and feeling are two different types of data. More data and accurate data sent to your partner gives you the best shot at being understood, appreciated and cherished. That’s a pretty good payoff, I’d say!
One characteristic that’s commonly found in people who get depressed is a tendency to confuse thoughts and feelings, and this is another area where meditation can be helpful.
By tapping into each one of these elements daily, we can slowly start to control how we feel. Behaviors seem to be a pretty obvious component. You don’t have to have a PhD to understand that if you go out for a run, or participate in a spin class- you’re going to feel a lot better afterwards. Thoughts and feelings, however, are where things get tricky.